Initially, I sat down and began typing in a negative state. After leaving the post
for 2 days, I came back and read it, and am so glad I didn’t post it, as it dripped
with immense hatred and venom. And by putting it out there, wouldn’t have
solved the various issues and thoughts I’m currently navigating through. I’m
having difficulty identifying friends at the moment, as there seems to be too
much of a soap opera brewing. Basically, I’m annoyed with a few people, who
seem more like free-loaders than actual friends. Content to accept invitations to
various gathering my wife & I have thrown, but always show up empty handed,
and feel content to eat, drink, and be merry, always on my dime. There’s never
any reciprocation! I know, I should be humble, and thankful that these people
have a good time, but to be honest, I don’t always have the money to do this,
and end up straining finances in attempt to please everyone. Now, I’ve got to
figure out how to deal with these people, as it gives me no joy to hang out with
them anymore. I understand that everyone’s going through issues today, but,
I’m tired of people complaining, but not doing anything with effort, to change
their situations. Me, I’m just trying to figure out what I need to do, and I keep
the complaining as only mentioned to my wife. Not that the aforementioned
people are bad people, they’re not, I just have to figure out if I should just be
direct and let them know how I feel/see things, and if needed, cut my losses and
move on?
Is it just with freeloading issues or is there more, like that they're just
"fair weather friends"??
If you've got freeloaders at parties, have they been told to bring a little something? It's not rude with the invites, whether verbal, e-mailed, etc.-- to politely mention that it's potluck/bring something to share, BYOB, etc.
Anyway... that's my 5 cents worth.